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Bryn, what wonderful ideas to share with students that are engaging and reflective as well as practical for them as they contemplate “next steps”! The piece that really spoke to me is about relationships…we are never alone…truly…and as you say in the title…it can be dangerous to go alone!

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The older I get, the more I know that belonging and bonds are the secret sauce. 💕 Thank you for reading and sharing your reflections 💕

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Bryn, as you know I’m a PhD who eschewed the academic path and it turned out for the best. But I didn’t know it would at the time! For me, it was just a lucky opportunity that I seized upon in my first year of the PhD program: I scooped up some freelance work for the publishing company I worked for in the year between MA and PhD. I liked the work and they liked me, and so there was more of it, enough that we were asked to edit a book (I should note, my whip-smart wife joined me in taking on the freelance work). By the time I was ready to receive my degree, I had the choice between continuing to bash my head against a terrible job market or expanding this small book-packaging business I was running with my wife. The choice was easy.

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Thanks for sharing your experience, Tom. I remember staring down the barrel (albeit briefly) of the academic job hunt, but I knew it would be a lot of head bashing - and I didn’t think it was the right value proposition for me. Having the opportunity to do freelance while in grad school was/is very eye opening to the possibilities!

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Bryn, this is such a good talk. I love how in all of your academic time you found art. I love people too, and of course art. My youngest was an extreme academic (he's 29 now), went to an Ivy League and majored in anthro certain he would end up in research somewhere, went to the Amazon, hurled himself literally into studying monkeys. Came home with a continual draw to writing, the arts (as he had begged to and attended an art high school previous), recovered for a period (his mind on fire, complicated, etc), was accepted to med schools of dreams, turned it down, went to civil law, turned some gray hairs and found his way into his heart for mental health/drug addicted souls, the last two years., working in a safe house, back in school, etc.

It's definitely a journey to find your purpose and it can be anywhere if you keep in communication as you say with all that surrounds your journey.

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I appreciate your kind words 💕 I don’t think we can ever truly know our paths, Deborah, and your shared experiences here are a great example of that. It sounds like your son has had a rich path but more importantly the support from loved ones to make bold choices that others might see as crazy. Good for him!

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Exactly, ours paths are always evolving.. and yes, love and support is everything along the way 🙌🏻

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I love this and will be saving it to share with any of my students who might need it! (Just because I’m back in academia doesn’t mean I’m drinking their Kool-Aid!)

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OH YEAH! (I had to do the Kool-Aid Man. 😂) Thanks for sharing it, Alison 💕 And I’m happy to have my brain picked by anyone you find is struggling in this regard. It’s dangerous to go alone 🗡️

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One of the best decisions I made during college was to take a year off. I had been a Russian Lit major but realised that I liked to read and didn't have a clue what to do with this as a career. It was illuminating to have to support myself during that year, working three jobs. But more importantly, I allowed myself time to dream and in my dreaming, I discovered a calling. Now, after a 44 year career in Physical Therapy, I know how fortunate I was to find my path.

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I love this, Susan - thank you for sharing 💕 We don’t allow ourselves enough time to dream, honestly. To give our brains a break from mental processing and performing. It sounds like a wonderfully enlightening period in your life that set you up well! I’m fascinated how you made that pivot, and also whether you still read Russian Lit?

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